I hosted Christmas this past year. My sister and her family flew in and to be honest I was a bit apprehensive about it. My sister and I werent the best of friends. She's the oldest and Im the youngest and there are quite a few years between us. We used to physically fight when we lived together... and it just wasnt a good situation with both of us living together at any time... Infact when I would talk about my sister to our other siblings... I would refer to her as "your" sister... like "how's your sister doing"...
I had time to reflect this past christmas. There were things that I may have said and done in the past that would have hurt... and really, both of us were just acting out on past hurts and disappointments. Things I said, I regret and Im so glad some of what I said didnt come true. She's married now and with a couple of kids and a wonderful husband.
On christmas day we all sat together... me, my sister and her family and my dad... we read the bible... we did some praise and worship songs and then my sister's husband decided to read a letter that my sister had written him the night before. It was just an emotional time for me. I couldnt stop crying as he read the letter. I was so happy about the love displayed between them... It was so beautiful. I was so happy that my sister had found someone to truly make her happy... a wonderful husband and a great father... and just a wonderful friend/brother-in-law. Watching them made me realize that above all else, it is important to find a man who truly loves God. A friend of mine had told me that before.... I think it was Ola or BK...
He's such a wonderful man really. As could be expected there was a lot of cooking going on in my house. My father has got to be the best chef there is out there... and to my surprise my brother-in-law cleaned up the kitchen one day... I actually thought it was my sister but nope... it was him... and then on christmas night... when everyone else had retired... I decided to put all the dishes together and clean up... trying to decide if I wanted to clean up tonight and do it in the morning and he came to me and said you cooked all day... you go rest and I'll do it... I was WOWed and while he was doing that, we started to talk... and he told me about his life... his life with my sister and how he got to the point of proposing to her and what not... He told me about how he'd promised God that if he gave him a good wife that he would keep her holy (Ephesians 5:26 niv) and his commitment to that has been unwavering. I noticed they read the bible everyday and I had asked both him and my sister if it's something they do together all the time... She said yes. Each year they decide how they're going to read the bible and talk about it. He told me that it didnt matter what my sister did, but he would keep the commitment he made to God concerning her. He would keep her holy. Something happened within their marriage earlier on and when they both relay the events I just shake my head at what happened... but Im also thanking God... for it is only a man of God that would have stood firm and not flipped out... He truly is a treasure from God
Christmas has since passed but the lessons I came away with will remain. I realized that I still act like a brat sometimes. I learned that I wanted a love like my sister's. I mean after several years of marriage, they still hold hands in the car.. when they're walking... you can actually see them as "one". I realized that I loved my sister regardless of anything and we dont have to talk everyday or email each other to prove that the love is there... It just is. I realized that if you wait on what God has for you.. life will be golden... no one should be restricted/hindered by age (ex: I have to get married by 25) and like I mentioned above... I realized above all else that if you find a man who Loves God with all his heart and is committed to Him and His ways... you'll be just fine!
I will be just fine! :-)
Hope your week is going well so far... voted yesterday... and my candidate won! :-) and a friend of mine is in from Bean town... so it's all good! and I apologize if you commented on the previous post (below) and it got deleted... the whole post got deleted :-( and then I reposted it... so sowwwwyyyy :-)