January 31, 2007

Hump Day...

Totally random stuff:

When you pump gas, is it necessary to turn off the car engine? Because the other day, I forgot....but I didnt realize until I had finished and got back in the car....I got ready to twist the key....and realized I didnt have to. I was just thankful that my car didnt blow up or something...

Yesterday...I went to bestbuy...patiently waited for a space and was about to reverse the car into the spot...and what happens....this old white lady with a big red truck quickly goes around me to enter the space...Thank God I looked back just in time otherwise that would have been an accident. So I waited for her to come out of her car and I rolled my window down. I stated to her...I was just about to reverse into that space. She says "Oh Im sorry" and keeps walking. Oh YOU'RE SORRY? okay. let's see how you get out of this parking space cuz Im parking my car right here...and I most likely wont be done until AFTER you're ready to leave. I mean other ppl CLEARLY saw what I was trying to do...then u deided to chance me? okay no problem.

Well that really wasnt how it went down... a couple who saw what happened was about leaving and motioned for me to wait for them...so I did...if not...my car wouldve stayed right there...foolish woman...what she should have done, was get back in her monster truck and offer to leave the space. I was so calm...I even surprised myself...I guess this is all part of being mature...choosing your battles. But I was just baffled by the incident...it's never happened to me before. It wasnt even like I was a mile away trying to reverse....I clearly pulled just past the space and STOPPED. then hit reverse and was already backing towards it. Now if there had been an accident...who would have been at fault. This happened one time on thanksgiving day in boston. We needed some food and my dad and I went to a chinese store cuz it seems those are the only ppl that open on holidays. So we waited and waited and waited for a parking spot...that's how this guy chanced us. My dad said no problem. So he just parked his car behind the other guy's car and said YOU NEED TO MOVE....he was very calm about it too. Luckily the guy moved his car cuz I know my dad is VERY stubborn...what is it with ppl and parking spaces

infact....i had another incident where this huge white truck parked so close to me....neither of us could open our doors. Rebellious me...I just sat in my car...willing him to hit my car door with his door so I could really get him. That was an older white man. So now I have to wonder...is it white ppl and their big trucks...because I dont drive a a truck to intimidate other ppl ehn? in due time...maybe not...i drove an F-150 and I couldnt handle it...I think I'll stick to regular sedans....

*hiss* absolute NONsense

one last story from my parking lot saga....I was reversing out a spot ...that's how my passenger doors open on each side. Two asian ladies were trying to get into the car. Infact I was too shocked to be alarmed. Thank God they werent hijackers or kidnappers...just old ladies with no clue. Because I was just frozen...I mean if you had told me that would happen before it did...I'd probably think I would react quickly...but no...too shocked to do anything....

how's your week going.

oh...before i forget...did anyone watch American Idol yesterday. You know I've been hearing about Paula being drunk but yesterday she was VERY VERY loopy... I wondered what drug she was on and now this morning on the news, I hear they might be trying to replace her permanently with Courtney Love as reported by US Weekly. I mean there was a guy who had wonderful pitch....sang well...and she says..."OH im sorry...you sounded horrible"...and then she gave a standing ovation to a guy that wasnt so so remarkable....hmmmm if she's not drunk or on drugs...then I dont know... I mean even Simon and Randy were looking at her like WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU


Blogger Bachelorette is coming up the first full week of February....you dont want to miss it TRUST ME...wanna know who the lucky bachelorette is?.....

January 29, 2007

Music Im Feeling: Alicia Keys & Bono

DONT GIVE UP (AFRICA)



In this proud land we grew up strong //We were wanted all along // I was taught to fight, taught to win // I never thought I could fail

No fight left or so it seems // I am a man whose dreams have all deserted // Ive changed my face, Ive changed my name // But no one wants you when you lose

Dont give up // 'Cos you have friends // Dont give up // You're not beaten yet // Dont give up // I know you can make it good

Though I saw it all around // Never thought I could be affected // Thought that we would be the last to go // It is so strange the way things turn // Drove the night toward my home // The place that I was born, out on the lakeside // As daylight broke, I saw the earth // The trees had burned down to the ground

Dont give up // You still have us // Dont give up // We dont need much of anything // Dont give up // 'Cause somewhere there's a place // Where we belong

Rest your head You worry too much // It's going to be alright // When times get rough // You can fall back on us // Don’t give up // Please dont give up

Got to walk out of here //
I cant take anymore // Going to stand on that bridge // Keep my eyes down below // Whatever may come // And whatever may go // That rivers flowing // Oh that rivers flowing

Dont give up // 'Cause you have friends // Dont give up // You're not the only one // Don't give up // No reason to be ashamed // Don't give up // You still have us // Dont give up now // We're proud of who you are // Dont give up // You know it's never been easy // Dont give up // 'Cause I believe there's a place // There's a place where we belong


This song was originally performed by Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush in 1986 and was titled "So". Last year, Alicia and Bono decided to collaborate to advocate for the needs of children affected by AIDS in Africa. It was released on the KEEP A CHILD ALIVE site. Please do check it out. I love this song alot...I heard it some time last year....I dont love it just because it's got a nice beat to it and features one of my favorite artists...nope...I love it for the message that it brings....basically never lose hope...never!

January 27, 2007

Interesting News

January 26, 2007

attention....unNAKEDsoul

okay...i couldnt resist...

Question 1:
Imagine you are in a desert (are you there?);
Now imagine a ladder (are you seeing it?);
Now what is the position of the ladder? i.e Lying down, Resting on something, Standing alone...
well the ladder is standing alone...rooted in the sand but not so deeply...hmmm...it's a wonder that it's not falling...but it's kinda tilted a bit

Question2:
Image a horse in that same desert (are you there?);
What is the colour of the horse?
What is the horse doing?
brown....chocolaty brown...hmmm...smooth to the touch...so graceful...and it's just there...maybe wagging its tail...do horses wag their tails?...hmmmmm...is it called a tail? anyways that's what its doing...sorta kinda...

Question 3:
Come back to reality...
Give three reasons why you like water.
it nourishes the body and quenches my thirst especially when it's not so so cold, makes me feel good, good for my skin

Question 4:
What is your favourite colour?
Give the three reasons why you like that colour.
Red...all the way...ever since I can remember
it's a sensual color.....yep...tres sexy...it's bold...daring...and I look good in red :-) although Im beginning to like Orange now alot...just discovered that color...but wearing red makes me feel good...and orange now too...

Question 5:
What is your favourite animal (Even if you don't like, what would it be if you do?)
Give three reasons why you like/would like that animal.
Im not big on animals...but if I had to choose one...it'd be a dog (how generic is that).... well...they're cute...can be trained...and are there to keep you company...oh wait...i like it cuz i can use it to prevent my excuse for not excercising... but really i'd rather have a teddy bear...so let's just assume that it's an animal....i like teddy bears cuz i can cuddle them...and....cuddle.... and.... cuddle...well if I wanted to be exotic...Id choose a Lion...cuz it can be tame but given the right circumstances...to hear her roar....majestic...hmmm...okay...final answer...LION... power...royal...and sexy?...yeah...something sexy about being powerful....intimidating...without attempting to be so...

Question 6:
Imagine you wake up in a white room with no door, and no window.
What will be your first reaction?
What will be your reaction afterwards?
where am I...startled..instant panic...close my eyes...then reopen...then I calm down and attempt to figure my way outta there...im sure there's a door somewhere...it's just hidden...it's all white...but if i can just adjust my vision...i'm sure i'll make out a door or window...hmmm...wonder what kind of material the room is made out of...maybe i can claw...chew...or something my way outta there

Question 7:
Without thinking, name two opposite sex names that are not your family member.
1? Sam
2? Ola

okay...i had to think...how else do you come up with names if you dont think them...infact i think i want to change my answer...depending on what you say

Question 8:
Without thinking, name someone from your family member.
1? Enitan... but i first thought of Rose cuz I just spoke w/her

Question 9:
Name anyone, same sex or otherwise, that is not a family member.
1? Ro ......i also thot of the jamaican and his sexy smile...Karim...hmmm...yummy

Question 10:
List four of your favourite music title
1. No One (cece winans)
2. Listen (beyonce)
3. I've finally found someone (barbra streisand)
4.If I aint got you (alicia keys)
but i tell you I like "Know these things:shouldnt you" by Maxwell...being looking for it on youtube...it's being on my mind lately....

Question 11:
List four of your favourite location/city.
1. KJA...it's all about the mainland :-)
2. Boston, MA... great town...except when it snows and it's all slushy everywhere....

3. bedroom..located in my house...which is located in metro atlanta
4.

Last One:
Arrange these animals according to your preference:
Tiger, Sheep, Cow, Monkey, Eagle
Eagle (but of course), Tiger, Sheep, Monkey, Cow ...it's a toss up between the monkey and the cow... cuz the monkey is bit freaky...but then the cow is just...kinda nasty...u know...just bullish....

January 25, 2007

Is love enough?

'Tis the season to be married...many websites to filter through and celebratory pictures to scrutinize. Statistics show in the US that close to half of the people getting married will be divorced within 5 years except of course another 9/11 happens and people withdraw their petition only to refile a year later. So let's see... mirror mirror on the wall...who's the unluckiest couple of them all. Even while Im rejoicing with couples...sometimes I wonder...cuz when I hear of couples divorcing after such a long time...when at first they seemed like the "it" couple...I wonder what happened

I love love stories and happy endings. It's what has festered my Romance Novel addiction. Even when I buy a book...I go right to the end...if I dont like the end of the book then I wont buy it. I love to read about how couples met, how they knew it was love, how the proposal was. I think of my own love story....mine was a Love that grew...there was no instant attraction...at least not on my part. I asked one of my coworkers...how did you know your husband was the one?...She said when her husband first met her...within 5 minutes, he'd told her that she would be his wife...and at the time, all she was thinking about was "hmmm...we could make pretty babies" so it took a bit for her to get where they are. Now they're 18 years strong.

So is love enough for any relationship?

I mentioned previously that I had a deadline for when I want to be married by. So Im thinking....what if He cant meet the deadline. Is it because of Love that I will keep waiting and postponing? Thoughts/Questions like these lend a business type sense to something that shouldnt be that way...or should it? Should I even have a deadline? I have a friend who, while I was in college, asked about my relationship status. At the time I was single. He told me "Diamond...dont get into the "american" way of thinking that you have time"... He said although its not vocalized, women do kinda have an expiration date. I told him WHATEVER. because I dont subscribe to that kind of thinking.... I can cite examples of people that I know that have gotten married past the age of 30 and appear to be happily married at that... Actually people who get married after the age of 30 tend of have a lesser rate of divorce. Guys ideally tend to get married around age 30...but what happens when both people are the same age as is the case w/me. Sometimes I think it woulda been better if I was a bit younger or him a bit older...

I was talking to one of my good friends BK a couple of days ago and I asked her this same question. In her church on sunday, the pastor asked its members during sunday school, what makes a happy home..People mentioned...patience...compromise...being able to endure...BK mentioned Love...but of course...what else...The pastor agreed and he added Money. Money is indeed necessary. So I have a deadline right? What if He feels he is not financially ready. If I decide to move on, will that make it seem it's all about the money. Will I even be able to move on since I say I love him? I was advised recently to keep my options open. This doesnt seem fair. You claim to love someone and want to be with them but still keep your options open. So maybe Love isnt enough...

All in all, this is my prayer...actually got it from my sister...I pray that I embody the definition of Love according to 1 corinthians 13: 4-7 and I show this to my partner and vice versa.

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud
5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

I pray that in my love relationship...that I am patient with my partner...not jealous or rude or demand to have my way. I pray that I am not irritable....

I was listening to something recently by my pastor from a couple years back. He stated...if you say love someone or someone loves you....Ask yourself these questions

Are you patient with that person or is that person patient with you?
just go down the list of the scripture..and then think about it

Questions....more questions...Love conquers all right? Then it should be enough right? It should transcend any deadline right? Wrong?? Maybe???


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January 19, 2007

Music Im Feeling - Bon Jovi - Thank you for loving me



It's hard for me to say the things
I want to say sometimes
There's no one here but you and me
And that broken old street light
Lock the doors
We'll leave the world outside
All I've got to give to you
Are these five words when I

Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn't see
For parting my lips
When I couldn't breathe
Thank you for loving me
Thank you for loving me


I never knew I had a dream
Until that dream was you
When I look into your eyes
The sky's a different blue
Cross my heart
I wear no disguise
If I tried, you'd make believe
That you believed my lies

Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn't see
For parting my lips
When I couldn't breathe
Thank you for loving me

You pick me up when I fall down
You ring the bell before they count me out
If I was drowning you would part the sea
And risk your own life to rescue me

Lock the doors
We'll leave the world outside
All I've got to give to you
Are these five words when I

Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn't see
You parted my lips
When I couldn't breathe
Thank you for loving me ....

January 15, 2007

I love him, I love him not

so here I am again. MLK day. I had the dayoff...how exciting for me. The boyfriend and I had a heart to heart yesterday. When I think of the things he said, my heart takes a tumble really. Im like how did I get so lucky. Then I think what is wrong with me? Am I scared of committment? My boyfriend asked me a question...something along the lines of "Im sure I want to be with you and Im a 100% committed...can you say the same?"...I looked around as if I expected someone to answer...you could hear the crickets

what is wrong with me? why didnt I answer?

and then my cousin in nigeria starts to ask me about my boyfriend today. Here's an excerpt

GH: abi bros go vex.....lol
diamondhwk: which bros is that
GH: u knw now abi u don chase d poor guy away u sef u cnt change
diamondhwk: what are you talking about
diamondhwk: are you saying i chase guys away
diamondhwk: ki lon so [what are you saying]
GH:yeah u chase dem away after u get bored
diamondhwk: oh my my my
GH: dats wat happened to osondu mayowa muyiwa chinedu emeka chugo etc need i say more
diamondhwk: i dont know who all these guys are o....abegggggyyyyyyyyy
diamondhwk: lol
diamondhwk: you're sooooooo NOT serious
diamondhwk: is it bcos you've been dating the same chick for a minute
diamondhwk: so you now have mouth ehn
GH: but u knw i am yannin d truth
GH: okay wats d new guys name


I've been analyzing alot about me. Infact on my way to church yesterday I did some self analysis in the car...I started to list who I am as a person...being honest with myself...

Love is a decision right? Then I need to decide to be 100% committed to my relationship...not 98%. It's not fair. And to have a guy like I do...to have him where I do...it's not something to play around with. This feeling is deeper than deep. Im not bored...I just dont want to be emotionally vunerable to anyone. Echoes of someone telling another person that "Diamond doesnt fall in love" still rings in my ear. Is it true? Im more naked with him than Ive been with anyone...He knows so many many many things about me...things that even I dont want to speak out loud about myself...we're so connected...

What am I scared of really? Maybe that I'll end up like my parents? Maybe I dont want to be a fool in love like so many women out there who get cheated on...they lose control easily...give men too much power. I hold my boyfriend's heart...it's what he said to me. He says the best things to me. No doubt I want to be with him forever and ever

He poured his heart out to me yesterday. ..told me some things that he'd been holding back....things he'd noticed and didnt like...such as my nonchalant attitude....So today it's my turn. Im a little scared.

sometimes I feel maybe Im not good enough for him....maybe he should be with someone else...someone who's prettier...who's skinnier...who's not as fiesty...self-esteem issues I guess...

The complexities of matters of the heart...oh my my my

2007 promises to be an interesting year...a great one at that

January 11, 2007

The Prayer of Humble Access

We do not presume to come to this your table, merciful Lord. Trusting in our own righteousness, but in your manifold and great mercies, We are not worthy so much as to gather up the crumbes under your table. But you are the same Lord whose nature is always to have mercy. Grant us therefore, gracious Lord, so to eat the flesh of your dear Son Jesus Christ and to drink his blood, that we may evermore dwell in him and he in us. Amen


Im so desperate for God. Im looking to quench my spiritual thirst. You know when you start feeling thirsty, your body is already dehydrated...that's the way it is with me. I went to church on sunday and that's what the pastor talked about.....if you're yearning God desperately, you're past the point where you really need him. I stepped out on faith with the purchase of my home...and now I know that I have to step up in every area of my life. I have felt a similar desperation.it was in college...my last year. I had just come back from Nigeria..and I was determined to graduate that semester...at that point I didnt care what grade I got....as long as it was a C or better. I hated school...I felt I was in prison with the bars closing in on me...tighter and tighter and I had to break free. Imagine one of my professors telling me I should consider a double major and it would only add an extra year....she loved my art and thought I should get a degree in it....I smiled at her but inside there was something in me that wanted to break free and run....and just run. I know this year will require me to rely on my faith more than ever. This year will require that I expand on my knowledge of God. I just dont think I know him intimately enough and somehow I dont know if Im doing enough....laziness plays a role in this as well. I find myself reverting to the way I was brought up...reciting the prayers I was taught in church...listening/singing hymns..they relax me...this is where I find comfort....something I never thought I'd say. I guess there's something to be said about tradition. I miss my home church. ... Maybe I need to find someone that will kinda be my guide...will check up on me...make sure Im reading the bible like I should...following God's word like I should....

The prayer of humble access is one that is commonly said before the communion....and below is the nicene creed..I love to recite them....years and years of repeating them and they just kinda stayed with me...wanted to share it with you


We believe in one God, the Father, the Almighty, maker of heaven and earth, of all that is, seen and unseen. We believe in one Lord, Jesus Christ, the only son of God, eternally begotten of the Father, God from God, Light from Light, true God from true God, begotten, not made, of one being with the Father. Through him all things were made. For us and for our salvation he came down from heaven: by the power of the Holy Spirit he became incarnate from the Virgin Mary, and was made man. For our sake he was crucified under Pontius Pilate; he suffered death and was buried. On the third day he rose again in accordance with the Scriptures; he ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the Father. He will come again in glory to judge the living and the dead, and his kingdom will have no end. We believe in the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life, who proceeds from the Father [and the Son]. With the Father and the Son he is worshipped and glorified. He has spoken through the Prophets. We believe in one holy catholic and apostolic Church. We acknowledge one baptism for the forgiveness of sins. We look for the resurrection of the dead, and the life of the world to come. AMEN..

January 7, 2007

....he cheated

I went to the movies today. After church I decided Id go early to watch Dream Girls. Everyone has been raving about it and it would only cost me $5 for an AM show. It is a beautiful movie. Something that resonated deep within me was that, no matter what, you have to keep going at your dream. Dont always expect instant gratification on everything but stay focused...stay true...and one day, your dream will become reality. No one told me it was a tear jerker so I wasnt prepared with my Kleenex. Next I hopped over to see the movie, The Holiday featuring Carmen Diaz. Beautiful movie that one is...also another Tear Jerker. I just kept crying the whole movie. How ridiculous....Im such a wuss. I was so drained at that point, so I decided against a 3rd movie. I had originally planned to see The Good Shepherd...yep......all with the $5. So I went home and perfect timing too because one of my brothers in Nigeria called me just as I was leaving the theatre. I got to speak with him and the children. I love kids...they're so cute...they do say the darndest things

Wouldnt it be great if life was sorta like the movies? Where Jude Law could fall in love with you within two weeks and cry when you leave. How easy would it be to switch houses, switch countries at the drop of a hat and then you find love when you least expect it. You find someone who loves you for you. Think about Sweet Home Alabama....Jerry Maguire...Bridget Jones' Diary...Chocolat...

With 2006, I put my infatuation with the stranger to rest. He's gorgeous though. He's a smooth talking Jamaican. He smiles and I smile. The other day he touched me…kinda ran his hands through my back and I gasped. Oh my goodness...I didnt know who it was at first but it felt good. But I will just learn to appreciate things like that without delving deeper into it. Im so in love with my boyfriend. I didnt know it was possible to fall in love all over again but it happened.

My boyfriend is extremely smart. We met almost 20years ago. It seems like Ive been betrothed to him since then. He's a very humble gentleman...and quite easy on the eyes...just gorgeous. A nice balance between brains and looks....so what he doesnt write me poems...he sends me cute little text messages that have me smiling through the day. I only need to look at him smile to have a brighter day. Im hurt when he's hurt, Im angry when he's angry...we are perfectly suited to each other...somewhere deep in my heart, there was a whisper that he was the one for me. I realize I have to appreciate it more and more and I cant do that by having my attention on some other people. We are careful in our relationship...we dont want to repeat the mistakes of the older generation...

Like my brother in California... he recently got caught cheating on his girl. What a way to start the new year. He tells me he cant help himself. I tell him he's lucky to be with the chick he's with and he needs to get his act together. He said he doesn't want to commit. He just wants to keep banging as many people as possible. He wants to have his cake and a couple more on the side. This is irresponsible behavior and I told him as such. He should have thought about that before he had 3 children with the chick right? I told him he was selfish and he was being a poor example for his children. I think I'm going to pray that every time he's tempted to be with another woman, that his penis doesnt work...but then that might mess with his self-esteem but I dont know what else to do. I dont like that he cheated...a member of my own family. People used to think I didnt like guys because it seemed I was so hard on them...little did they know that I have a couple of players in my family and Im quite familiar with their games so I recognize it when someone tries to run one on me. It's such a shame. God help him. I gave him a few pointers on how to win his chick back. At least she didnt leave him... yet...but it's only a matter of time if he cant keep it zipped up

January 3, 2007

Brother, Sister, Aunty, Uncle

This new year has been one for reminiscing. My sister in England and I have been talking for hours for the past couple of days. We talk about everything. We're getting older, so we talk about getting married...about being with our respective partners....about raising our children...about God. I love her. Remember her?

We've talked about so many things. Like my brother. When after 13 odd years, my father decides we should start calling my brother...BROTHER O. All these years of calling him O and now we have to start calling him Brother O. Needless to say you barely heard us calling him for a while...and we finally reverted back to our old ways of just calling him O...it's not like he even minded

I told her how it is with me...I don't call certain people anything. I've gone through life with these people not calling them anything. You may wonder how do I get their attention.....well I wait for them to look my way or I go directly in their line of vision and of course when I start speaking and looking at you, you will know it's you Im talking to right?

I remember when my little cousins were born. I told them they could call me Diamond. Their mom was like NO WAY. It's Aunty Diamond. I felt so old. I was only 18 and had just started College not too long ago. I thought it was really old fashioned but you know what...now that Im in my 20s Im glad that they do call me "aunty". Because I just cant imagine them calling me by my regular name. I know them calling me "aunty" doesnt necessarily mean they will respect me, but I think having that prefix will give them a hint that this is someone I SHOULD be respecting

I was talking to some of my relatives and their friends last year. I told them Igbo's dont really do this. I have close igbo friends and their siblings were much older and we called everyone just by their name. I think it's more of a Yoruba thing. You should see the way they were quick to shout me down...two of them were igbo...they said it is the Igbo's that dont have culture or rather that have forgotten their culture tha do this. I was quite defensive because I took it as a pesonal insult against some of my really best friends. I mean I grew up with these people and I didnt notice any lack of respect for their elders...I didnt notice a denial of their culture either...it was much celebrated.

Anyways, I left them alone...they left me to my "americana" way of thinking. What is it worth really? I only call about 7 people in this world using "brother" or "sister"....that's because for 5 of them, I grew up saying that...even then it was a challenge. I had been calling them by name for about 4 years and then one day, one of them told me to start calling them using "brother" and "sister". Im used it to it now...it's become a part of their name. The 6th person, is my mom's godson...I dont think he would dig me calling him by his name...and the 7th person is my friend's sister...everyone calls her that...so I dont want to be the odd one out. I asked her what the difference was between calling her "sister" and calling her "aunty"...she said she thinks for someone who is much much older..."aunty" is probably preferred but for someone who is sorta like a friend...still older...kinda close to you...you call them "sister/brother"...whatever...

Another thing is "mommy". My friends when they call my mom, some of them anyways will call her "mommy"....Me on the other hand I dont call my friends' parents anything...I feel weird calling them "aunty" especially if I dont really know them or am close to them but really really like them...you know...if there isnt that feeling of familiarity. Calling other people "mommy" is not really my thing iether...so I typically wont call them anything

Even my godfather...I dont call him anything. I remember one time he called wanting to speak to my mom and I said AVM A is on the line...and he talked to my mom about it...that I should be calling him "Daddy Festac" or something like that sha... I guess I just got used to calling him that as a Kid...I mean the title changed as he progressed thru the military...but I never called him anything so personal...even though he's not my real dad, he's acted in place of...and he considers me his daughter...his only daughter at that....

My sister was at a party recently and she saw some younger cousins and they were calling her by her name and she felt "Wow, there should be something attached to my name...like aunty...cousin" Of course she would not insist...but that's how she felt you know

My aunties here with me, one of them I call her by her name...she's American and I call her by name because that is what my cousins call her. When I first met her, I thought it was weird because in Nigeria, you dont do such but I got used to it. The other one I call "aunty". When I first met her about 2 years ago, I didnt know if I should call her aunty or not...We all started off calling her by name....but every time my uncle who she is now married to would refer to her, he would say "aunty". She's a traditional Nigerian...so I dont think with her it would fly either just saying her name. She talks to me about not forgetting where I come from...sometimes she says Ive been in the States too long that maybe Ive forgotten the culture. I get upset at this sometimes because I understand there are traditional ways of doing things but I wasnt necessarily raised with ALL these traditions

Ive never thought that using these prefixes mean respect but as I get older, I appreciate it. I dont insist anyone calls me using "aunty" or "sister" but I like to hear it now. I remember when my friend K from Nigeria called me. She was like "aunty Diamond"...I was a little surprised....I mean Im older by about 6 years but she hadnt called me that before...but I guess we'd been apart for a while...like over 10 years and I guess at home, maybe she wouldnt ordinarily call me by name.

I know alot of this has to do with pride. I've swallowed it or I try to consciously swallow it. One of my really close friends mom that I hang with...I call her "Mommy".....rarely though. I guess when I see my godfather, I will call him daddy...it just feels weird is all...but I must get over that. It takes nothing for me to say these things and I guess it is my culture...I should respect that

I guess when I get married I'd have to call my husband's parents mommy and daddy....God help with this. Cuz I think I'd be okay just saying Mr. and Mrs

Just my thoughts

January 1, 2007

My message to YOU

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My prayer is that we all have a joyous, prosperous and Holy Spirit Filled 2007

You will be uncommonly favored this year

The Lord who protected you to witness the beginning of this year shall bless you, prosper you, guide and direct your path and protect and keep you to the end without any sorrow

This is your year of breakthrough....God will expand your territory

I pray this for you in the Matchless name of Jesus... AMEN

You guys are awesome... I love you guys

From my family to yours...Have a Glorious and Joyous New year

Diamond Hawk