'Tis the season to be married...many websites to filter through and celebratory pictures to scrutinize. Statistics show in the US that close to half of the people getting married will be divorced within 5 years except of course another 9/11 happens and people withdraw their petition only to refile a year later. So let's see... mirror mirror on the wall...who's the unluckiest couple of them all. Even while Im rejoicing with couples...sometimes I wonder...cuz when I hear of couples divorcing after such a long time...when at first they seemed like the "it" couple...I wonder what happened
I love love stories and happy endings. It's what has festered my Romance Novel addiction. Even when I buy a book...I go right to the end...if I dont like the end of the book then I wont buy it. I love to read about how couples met, how they knew it was love, how the proposal was. I think of my own love story....mine was a Love that grew...there was no instant attraction...at least not on my part. I asked one of my coworkers...how did you know your husband was the one?...She said when her husband first met her...within 5 minutes, he'd told her that she would be his wife...and at the time, all she was thinking about was "hmmm...we could make pretty babies" so it took a bit for her to get where they are. Now they're 18 years strong.
So is love enough for any relationship?
I mentioned previously that I had a deadline for when I want to be married by. So Im thinking....what if He cant meet the deadline. Is it because of Love that I will keep waiting and postponing? Thoughts/Questions like these lend a business type sense to something that shouldnt be that way...or should it? Should I even have a deadline? I have a friend who, while I was in college, asked about my relationship status. At the time I was single. He told me "Diamond...dont get into the "american" way of thinking that you have time"... He said although its not vocalized, women do kinda have an expiration date. I told him WHATEVER. because I dont subscribe to that kind of thinking.... I can cite examples of people that I know that have gotten married past the age of 30 and appear to be happily married at that... Actually people who get married after the age of 30 tend of have a lesser rate of divorce. Guys ideally tend to get married around age 30...but what happens when both people are the same age as is the case w/me. Sometimes I think it woulda been better if I was a bit younger or him a bit older...
I was talking to one of my good friends BK a couple of days ago and I asked her this same question. In her church on sunday, the pastor asked its members during sunday school, what makes a happy home..People mentioned...patience...compromise...being able to endure...BK mentioned Love...but of course...what else...The pastor agreed and he added Money. Money is indeed necessary. So I have a deadline right? What if He feels he is not financially ready. If I decide to move on, will that make it seem it's all about the money. Will I even be able to move on since I say I love him? I was advised recently to keep my options open. This doesnt seem fair. You claim to love someone and want to be with them but still keep your options open. So maybe Love isnt enough...
All in all, this is my prayer...actually got it from my sister...I pray that I embody the definition of Love according to 1 corinthians 13: 4-7 and I show this to my partner and vice versa.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud
5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
I pray that in my love relationship...that I am patient with my partner...not jealous or rude or demand to have my way. I pray that I am not irritable....
I was listening to something recently by my pastor from a couple years back. He stated...if you say love someone or someone loves you....Ask yourself these questions
Are you patient with that person or is that person patient with you?
just go down the list of the scripture..and then think about it
Questions....more questions...Love conquers all right? Then it should be enough right? It should transcend any deadline right? Wrong?? Maybe???
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